【夢は人と比べるものじゃない♡小さいも大きいも関係ないよ♪】

こんにちは、YAYOIです♪

11月10日、

念願だったセミナーを名古屋で開催しました。

 

その名も

【ヤヨイとデコのリッチ脳ぶっ飛びセミナー】です♪

ちょうど1年前、まだ長崎にいる時に

ゆくゆくはコーチングの師のもとで学んでいる

豊かな心と脳の構築方法(リッチ脳)を

全国の方に知って欲しい!!と思い、

全国セミナー開催が夢の1つになりました。

 

そして、1年後の11月、この夢の一歩が叶いました。

お蔭さまで、

暫定ゴールだった人数にも達し、満員御礼でした。

 

セミナーの内容は、

コラボセミナーでヒーラーのDeCoちゃんと行い、

ヒーリングや私の催眠ワーク、

叫んだり笑ったり、

夢を引き出すワークをやったり、

エンターテインメント型のセミナーでした♪

開催場所も栄のBARでぶっ飛んでる

 

参加者の中には、

中々自分の夢ややりたいことが分からないって方も

何名かいましたので、

 

今日はセミナーで実際に行った夢を引き出すワークを

少しシェアしますね♪

まず、何故やりたいことや夢が出てこなくなるのは

なんでだと思いますか??

子供の頃は無限に出てきたましたよね!!

『あれやりたい!!』『これやりたい!!』

『大きくなったら〇〇になりたい!!』

でもいつの間にか大人になると

そんなことも忘れて、

『は!? 夢??そんなもの忘れちまったよ』

てな感じに・・・。

 

 

実際、何の制限もなしに

好きなことをやってみましょう!!

と言われたら果たしてどのくらいの大人が

それに応えられるのでしょう!?

 

ワクワクを忘れた大人にこそ、

子供心を思い出してワクワクすることが大事かな~って

最近特にそう思います。

今回のセミナー講師の2人、一番楽しんでた

 

 

子供の頃はやりたいことや夢が無限にあったのに、

大人になると何故出て来なくなるのか・・・

 

それは・・・

子供の頃に夢中になっていたことに対して、

親の考えやエゴ、社会の価値観などの影響も入っている場合も多いからです。

 

幼少期の記憶を辿ると、

子どもが『楽しい』と思うことをすると、ほとんどが親から叱られます。

泥だらけになって遊んだり、

壁に落書きするとだいたいが褒められるより、

『こら!!こんなことやめなさい!!』と怒られます。

 

一方、褒められる時というのは、

親のいうことを聞いた時です。

自分のやりたいことを我慢した時にいい子だね

って褒められるのが多いものです。

 

『勉強すると褒められた』

『いたずらすると叱られた』

といった体験と

『うれしかった』という情動が

一つのセットになったことを情動記憶といいます。

 

私達の思考や行動は、

この過去の情動記憶によってコントロール

されているといわれています。

過去の情動記憶を判断材料にして、

『その選択をすると、うれしい、うれしくない』という

思考や行動が形づいていくのです。

 

 

ですから、『親のいうことを聞くと、誉められて嬉しい』

という情動記憶がある人は、

自分のやりたいことより、

他人のいうことを聞くほうを優先してしまうのが、

慣れ親しんでいて『それがワタシ』と

思ってしまっているのです。

 

ですので、

『やりたいことや夢を見つけたい』と思っていても、

社会の価値観から来たやりたいことしか思いつかなかったり、

親や周りからの役割からくる夢、

超資本主義的な夢しか思いつかなくなったり、

あるいは

『夢なんてもっても叶いっこない』と

という思い込みが邪魔していてやりたいことや夢が出てこない

場合が多いのです。

 

ではどうしたらいいか??ですが、

コーチングの世界では

なんでもいいからとりあえずゴールを設定するってことが

大切だといわれています♪

興味があること、やってみたいこと。好きなことを書きだしてみます。

セミナー中も書きだしてもらいました♪

 

それが、出来ないって??笑

 

そういう場合は、

子どもの頃に好きだったものを思いだしてみてください♪

夢中になってご飯も食べるのも忘れて

ワクワクしていたこと

門限の時間も忘れて無我夢中だったことなど

 

そこにヒントがあるかもです!!

 

セミナーでは、そのワークもやりました♪

 

ちなみに私は、

冒険ごっこが好きで、ローラースケートで長崎の坂を下り、

兼高かおる世界の旅が大好きな超お転婆娘でした。

それが、今の夢や好きなことにも繋がっています。

 

 

それでも出て来なくて落胆したあなた!!

大丈夫です!!

実は本当にやりたいことって中々出てこないのです!!

 

それでも、

ちょっとずつでも興味あることを見つけて、

行動すると視野が広がり色んなやりたいことが出てきますよ♪

そして、夢というと、

大きくてぶっ飛んでた方が素敵と思いがちかもですが、

夢は人それぞれ比べるものでもないですし、

小さいも大きいもないです♪

あなたらしい夢を見つけて、

毎日ワクワクして過ごせたらコーチ冥利に尽きます♪

セミナーでも皆んなの夢ややりたいことが出てきた~

 

 

ぜひぜひ、

参考にしてみてください♪

それでは、また♪

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1年前からの夢が叶った♬海外での仕事

こんにちは、Yayoiです♬

かなりお久しぶりの投稿になりました。

先日、一年前に設定していた夢の一つが叶いました。

それは、『リッチ脳コーチになって世界で仕事をする』ことです。

リッチ脳コーチの認定試験には今年の1月にとっていたので、

世界でお仕事する!!というもう一つの夢が叶うことになったんです。

 

まず初めの一歩の第一か国目はタイのバンコクに行ってきました♬

世界でお仕事したい!!とゴール設定したのが、

ちょうど1年前で

1年前はまだ長崎にいて海外で仕事だなんて夢のまた夢だったのに、

この8か月で起業して収入の柱はあれよあれよという間に3つに。

その3つの目のお仕事で今回、仕事仲間と行くことになりました。

 

私がいつもお世話になっているコーチングの師と

リッチ脳のメンバーたち私も含めて6人。

 

 

計7人中2人がなんと!!子供さんがいるママさん!!

お二人とも半年前は家を空けてセミナーに出ることさえ

ためらっていたのに、

お一人は福島から東京。お一人は東京から今は神戸まで

セミナー受講しに来ていて、

それが当たり前になってくると枠がどんどん外れて、

今回はなんと!!海外まで~~

リッチ脳では、ママだから〇〇しなきゃいけないという概念から

ママだけどこうやって海外でもお仕事出来る!!

というマインドに変わります♬

 

そしてこのお二人もママでも起業できるし、

海外でだってお仕事出来る!!というのを自分たちで証明して

世の特に日本のママさんたちの固定概念を書き換えたい!!と

意気込んでいました。

 

ママさんといっても大きなお子さんのママではなく、

8歳、5歳、2歳のママさん。

子供たちも笑って見送ってくれたそうです(^▽^)/

秘訣を聞くと、前は家を空けることにお申し訳なく思って、

ごめんなさい!!という気持ちで家を空けていたそうなんですが、

今は『楽しんでくるね!』という気持ちで来たら、

にこにこ送り出してくれたそうです。

 

そこに罪悪感を持つかそうじゃないかは、

他の人にも影響するのですね!!

特に親子の関係はそうだと思います。

まずは自分がどうしたいか??が大切でそれをきちんと伝えるのも

大事なことだと今回のことでまた改めて学びました✨

 

学びが多かった今回の旅。

また次回シェアしたいと思います(^▽^)/♬

 

 

 

 

 

 

Autumnal Equinox Day in Japan (Shūbun no hi – 秋分の日)

Hot weather, pool parties and summer vacation is over. However, you do not have to be sad because autumn is here! It is time to pull your sweaters out of the closet, sit on the couch with some hot tea or hot chocolate and the most fun of it all: it is almost Halloween!

Every year, at the end of september, there is an Autumnal Equinox day where people celebrate the changing seasons. On this day the sun rises exactly in the east and sets exactly in the west. After the equinox day, days will be shorter and nights will be longer. Which marks the beginning of the colder seasons. This year the holiday fell on September 23.

In Japan the Autumnal Equinox day is a national holiday which is called shūbun no hi (秋分の日) in Japanese. On this day Japanese families also honor their ancestors and deceased relatives.

The origin of this holiday dates back to the beginning of Shintoism. At the beginning of Autumn, shinto followers would celebrate a holiday called Shuki Koreisai. On this day the Japanese honored the lives and spirits of past emperors. Later, this day was also used to honor their own deceased relatives and ancestors.

The buddhist holiday Higan is celebrated during the Equinox days (spring and autumn). This day is to honor the deceased relatives and ancestors but also to reflect on oneself. People believe that spirits will reach Nirvana on this day.

Both Shuki Koreisai and Higan were replaced by Shūbun no Hi. Although Shūbun no Hi is considered a national holiday, Shuki Koreisai and Higan are not because of their religious ties. Despite that, Shūbun no Hi still has strong ties with the other two holidays because like those, this holiday is also used to honor ancestors and deceased relatives.

Autumnal Equinox is celebrated in several ways by Japanese Families:

1. Visting the graves of their deceased relatives. People often come there to pay their respects and decorate and clean the gravestones and plot. Some also leave an offering of food or incense at the graces,

2. Many families visit temples and shrines during this day. There are many festivals organised and a lot of food sold in food stalls. A treat that is commonly eaten during these festivals on Autumnal Equinox day is Ohagi. A sweet rice cake covered with red bean paste jam. Some temples even have workshops to create the sweet.

3. Another common thing for families is to have a family gathering and spend the time together. Shūbun no Hi is supposed to be a happy day, which is why it important for families to have happy gatherings with lots of positive conversations and amazing food.

4. Many Japanese people also use this day to travel around and enjoy a short holiday. People often travel back to their hometown or travel around the country. This is why traffic and public transportation is very crowded during that time of the year.

As you can see is Shūbun no Hi a very nice day for families to enjoy their time together. I hope you also have enjoyed the season change or maybe even experienced this wonderful holiday!

Well, that’s it for now. I will see you in my next post!

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Kim

6 things for you to enjoy during the night in Tokyo

We all go through it when you are new to a country or city and you don’t know the best places to visit or what to do during your spare time. Now it is Friday night, you just got home after a long day of work, school, sightseeing or doing the bare minimum, and you want to do something fun alone or with friends but you can’t figure out what. Luckily, as I have been living in Tokyo for over 5 months I have a fair share of ideas that might be of interest for you. A nice side note is that all Come on Up share houses are located relatively close to the city centre, meaning that you can easily work down this list in your spare time.

1. Japanese Izakaya

New to Japan or not, you most likely will hear the term ‘’izakaya’’ quite often. This term simply means ‘’a place where they sell alcohol and serve food’’. However, most foreigners would refer to izakaya as a Japanese style hub. There are thousands of izakaya spread throughout Tokyo and some even offer an all you can eat or all you can drink menu for a bargain price. These are some of the most popular izakaya around Tokyo.

  • Shinjuku Omoide Yokocho (also known as the Piss Ally or Memory Lane) this is a small alley with several small izayaka where you can enjoy a cosy atmosphere and escape Shinjuku’s modern fast life.
  • Gonpachi (also known as the Kill Bill restaurant) there are several locations such as Ginza, Shibuya and Asakusa.
  • Robata Izakaya Jomon in Roppongi is one of the best Robota (grilled food) izakaya in town, definitely worth a visit.

2. Restaurants

Tokyo has the highest number of Michelin star restaurants worldwide (234 restaurants). In these high quality (but also relatively pricey) restaurants you can enjoy foods such as: Teppanyaki, Shabu-Shabu, Tempura, Sukiyaki and Sushi. However, Tokyo isn’t only full of fancy restaurants it has more than enough smaller more local restaurants with just as high quality but for a lower price. Either way you are sure to have a great meal while enjoying great atmospheres.

 

 

 

  • Joël Robuchon ジョエル・ロブション – ¥¥¥¥ A French-styled 3 Michelin star restaurant located in Ebisu. It has a frequently changing menu and provides a classic and comfortable atmosphere. If you feel like having a French-style fancy dinner than this is the place to go.
  • Haciendo del Cielo – ¥¥-¥¥¥ A Spanish-styled restaurant located in Daikanyama. The restaurant is located on the 9th floor providing its guests with a beautiful view of the skyline in Tokyo. You can both choose to sit outside and enjoy the weather or sit inside and enjoy the warm atmosphere combined with Latin music.
  • Sushiro スシロ – ¥ A sushi chain restaurant with multiple locations in Tokyo with Ikebukuro being my favourite. Each table works with a tablet on which you can order your items followed by your food being delivered to you on a conveyer belt. It is the right place to go whether you eat alone or with friends.

3. Bar and Cafe’s

After enjoying a meal or 3 its a nice feeling to relax while having a drink in your hand whether its apple juice or fine wine. Luckily just like izakaya there are hundreds of nice bars and cafes in Tokyo. These are my top 3 recommendations for bars

 

 

  • Rigoletto Roppongi Hills ¥¥-¥¥¥ A beautiful semi casual bar / restaurant with a calming and romantic atmosphere. There is  pleasant music and an amazing view on the skyline of Tokyo where you can see you Tokyo tower.  I definitely recommend to enjoy this view at night.
  • Hub ¥-¥¥ A chain of pubs  spread throughout Tokyo. The hub is know for its national vibes. It is the perfect place to meet new people and make great friends. They have a very nice menu of drinks but also several small dishes that you can enjoy.
  • Shinjuku Golden Gai ¥-¥¥¥  The Golden Gai is a small alley with tons  of small bars, which seem to be built into small houses. It is very touristic place and there are bars for all prices and atmospheres.

4. Karaoke

Who doesn’t like a good night of karaoke? Tokyo is overflowing of random karaoke bars here and there. The karaoke culture within Japan is huge. It is great as night out with your friends but if you don’t have friends don’t fear! Some bars offer company staff that will sing and clap along while you are having the time of your life. Usually karaoke bars also offer costumes making it an even more adventurous experience.

5. Clubs

Last but not least clubs! The clubbing scene in Japan is completely different from what I am used to back home in the Netherlands. However this does not take away that its an entertaining night out in the nightclubs of Tokyo! Shibuya and Roppongi are the most popular locations to go clubbing during the weekend. These are the top 3 clubs in these areas according to us.

 

  • Alife Roppongi A huge and international club . It has 3 floors with each a different genre of music. You can enjoy edm, urban and pop music throughout the whole club. Compared to other clubs it is reasonably priced for the entertainment and service that is provided.
  • Camelot Shibuya This club is similar to Alife with music and service. However Camelot is fairly smaller and only has 2 floors but 3 dance floors. Usually ladies get in for free!
  • Club Womb Shibuya A world famous club where lots of big DJ’s play. According to locals the usual genre of music is tech-house and drum and base, however this differs per event. There are 4 floors to party on and reasonable prices for drinks.

Go and try these out and let us know in the comments what you think of these tips or if you have any recommendations we would love to hear about them!

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Rochelle

More Dutch Interns!

こんにちはみなさん!

My name is Rochelle Reijme, living in the Kita-Ikebukuro share house, and I have been an intern at Come on Up Tokyo since August 2018!

To get to know me a bit more I will explain a little bit about me and where I’m from. I am a 22-year-old exchange student from the Netherlands, Rotterdam. I was born in a small village called Dordrecht, the Netherlands, but moved to Paramaribo, Suriname (South-America), as soon as I turned four. I lived and went to school there for 1 year before returning to the Netherlands, Rotterdam. As I grew up being multilingual and could understand English better than Dutch, I wanted my university study to be completely in English. This brought me to the study course I am currently following at the Rotterdam University of Applied Sciences called ‘’Trade Management Asia’’. Here I got the choice of going abroad for a whole year to Indonesia, China or Japan and being a city girl I chose Japan, Tokyo the most innovative country of the world over everything else.

I came to Japan, enrolled as an exchange student at the J.F. Obirin University in Machida, Sagamihara, at the end of March this year. It was the first time for me going to Asia, traveling alone and being all by myself. Going to a Japanese University for 5 months was a new and interesting experience. During this time, I learned more about Japanese culture, the language, youth culture and got a taste of what the Tokyo city life was about. I met various people and made great long-time friends during this time and I hope to continue doing so for the rest of my stay in Japan.

To complete my study abroad I started my internship at Come on Up. The company placed me in their Kita-Ikebukuro share-house, which is an amazing location for me as I have been yearning to live closer to the city. Getting up and close with the city life of Tokyo made me fall in love with Japan even more. This share-house life style has already given me more friends and new and fun experiences.

I like exploring cities, bars, restaurants, museum etc! Therefore, I do have various places that I can recommend, from a foreigner’s perspective, for those who want to explore and experience new places and events. During my time here at Come on Up I will try my best to provide you with as many interesting and exciting locations and events as possible.

I hope you will enjoy these stories about Tokyo and my share-house experience! Also make sure to follow our Instagram and Facebook for fun and interesting posts.

Rochelle Reijme